Secrets to getting the best results out of mentorship
One of the privileges of being human is the ability to connect with other people and build relationships that matter. Mentors and mentee relationship (mentorship) has been identified as one of the most rewarding and fulfilling relationship ever because of its ability to transform lives. If you are one of the favoured people who have a mentor or looking forward to getting one, you are encouraged to do the following in order to get the best out of the mentoring relationship.
1) Have a clear goal
Identify a particular area of your life where you need a mentor. This is the north compass of the relationship and must be taken seriously. Mentoring can help to achieve career success, marital bliss, financial independence and other desirable achievements in life. You must stick to this goal and not deviate from it until it is achieved. Elijah, a great prophet who was about to be caught away to heaven had a servant called Elisha. Elisha had always wanted the double portion of Elijah’s power. No wonder he didn’t mince words when Elijah gave him a blank cheque (2 Kings 2:9).
2) Find a Mentor-goal fit
You have to make sure that your mentor can deliver on your expectations. The easiest way to achieve this is to confirm if your current or proposed mentor has achieved desirable result in that area where you seek a desirable result – “by their fruits, you shall know them”.
3) Discuss mutual goals and expectations
You must brief your current or proposed mentor about your goal for seeking their help and they, in turn, must tell you about their expectations from you. This must be clear to both parties to avoid waste of time and dissatisfaction.
4) Respect boundaries
Boundaries like a place to meet, time to call, type and mode of preferred communication must not be violated. This will help to avoid unnecessary personal or professional friction.
5) Build trust, be honest with your mentor
Trust is the backbone of every meaningful relationship, therefore it must be built and not broken. Mentoring can expose the vulnerability of either party, this adds further weight to the importance of trust.
6) Communicate effectively, be curious
Make sure you understand the intentions of your mentor and vice versa. Curiosity helps you to ask vital questions and get answers that your mentor might not give without asking.
7) Be respectful of your mentor’s time and make the most out of meetings
Time, the basic and vital unit value of life must be respected. Never keep your mentor waiting and don’t waste time. Plan your questions and note your feedback In advance in order to stay organized and save time.
8) Offer to help
Find out areas where you can also be of help to your mentor.
9) Express your gratitude
Gratitude opens the door for more favour and therefore should be cultivated. It starts from a simple “thank you message” to giving of gifts and offering to pay for refreshment.
“A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men.” – Proverbs 18:16
From time to time, evaluate whether the goal of the relationship is being achieved or has the potential to be achieved. This is essential because desirable results is a validation of the relationship. Elisha earlier mentioned eventually got the double portion of Elijah power as he desired.
11) Know when to move on but don’t burn bridges
Nothing lasts forever. When it is time to say goodbye to a mentoring relationship, it is essential to leave in good faith and resolve any friction or differences that might arise because you might need to knock on that door again.
Elisha, the mentee of Elijah mentioned above eventually had his own mentee, his name was Gehazi. He couldn’t take the baton from Elisha because he was dishonest, didn’t respect boundary and was distracted from the mentorship objective; he paid dearly for it (2 Kings 5:20-27). Mentorship has a lot to offer you! Be a wise person, take actions by “making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:16).