A mentor is someone who is willing to share his knowledge and experience with others for their well-being and development. Even though mentoring is a voluntary exercise, it is less attractive financially. However, mentoring doesn’t just affect the mentees only, it develops as a shared opportunity for learning and growth. As mentors begin in their relationships with mentees, they together explore what their interests, values, attributes and goals are.
Before a mentoring relationship developed between my first Mentor and I, there were some observations I made about him. The first time I met him, I noticed he was very friendly and free with everyone he came across regardless of their status. He exuded so much humility that got me humbled. He spoke intelligently and was willing to interact and share his thoughts on any subject of discuss. So I decided I was going to get close to him so I can learn as much as I could from him. Having worked with him for few days, it was not difficult knowing he was good for my development.
How to find a good mentor
Here are a few nuggets to help you identify a good mentor:
- Good mentors are genuinely interested in the progress of their mentees.
- They are willing to serve their mentees.
- They believe that servant leadership helps the development of the mentee in a positive way.
- They love their mentees truly.
- They are real about who they are, and trust in the discretion and judgment of their mentees.
- They do not compromise their values for material gains.
- They celebrate their mentees and are willing to show off with them.
- They believe in their Mentees and in what they can do.
Good mentors are willing to stand in the gap for their mentees. They value the time they invest to know their mentees, learn new things that are important to them, and accept the challenges and benefits that comes with it.