The idea behind this article is to help you overcome the almost reflex response to conjure an excuse for not doing something we ought to have done. In other words, the reason why you are procrastinating and why it is responsible for most failures.
Can you take a moment to recall the last time you gave an excuse for not doing something as at when due? Did you remember ever doing it? Would you say the excuses given for delay were worth it? Did you get the best out of the excuse?
Now, let’s get back to our discussion: Some school of thought believes people who give excuses, (I mean people who practically have excuses for every mistake or delay) are coward, weak or lazy. Well, this is not always the case; it is unfair to agree with this notion. There are quite a number of things one can say about this.
It is not a crime to make excuses, at least not now! At some point in our daily living, we all make excuses, either to defend our actions to a superior or boss. We then try to classify the excuses; the major classification you will always get in our local parlance is whether the excuse is ‘genuine’ or ‘not genuine’.
If you get things done at the right time, you are most likely to finish ahead of schedule. Now, the difference between someone who gets things done immediately and someone who procrastinates or gives excuses is willpower – a strong conviction to get a task done. You have to be in control here.
Another school of thought also affirms that, when there is a will, there is a way. This is one saying I agree with 100%.
We are going to broadly classify the reasons why people give an excuse in these two ways, but if you are able to work on benefit of these two steps, you are on your way to experiencing success in the things you do.
- Set your priorities.
- Break down complex steps or processes into bits and pieces.
Set Your Priorities
Your priorities are those things you see as more important. Again, take a moment to think about what is more important to you right now? Could it be to increase your worth? Succeeding academically? Improving the quality of interpersonal relationships?
Excuse making is the result of conflicting priorities. When you don’t have a system for making decisions (vision), the tendency is to do whatever you feel is best at the moment. You cannot spend the whole day watching TV when you have an athletics championship race the next hour; you ought to be on the tracks!
You can clear this up by defining what your priorities are. The purpose is to aid when one event conflicts with another. If you have to decide between watching your favourite TV series and going for a practice on the tracks for a lifetime experience at an athletics championship final, which would you do? Which ranks higher? An episode of your favourite TV series or athletics success.
Splitting your priorities into a single major focus and several minor focuses make it far harder to give excuses. Whenever a conflict of priority arises where you would normally give an excuse, you should think of your priorities. When priorities are clear, it is difficult to justify departing from them.
Breakdown Complex Steps or Processes into Bits and Pieces
You should have a priority per time (one at a time) when you have too many things marked as priorities, you are already setting yourself up to making an excuse. Unwillingness to step into uncomfortable situations is another. Success in almost any effort requires taking risks and facing failure.
We are often overwhelmed by the end result or success of a cause, because of these we tend to see ourselves as inferior to those who have succeeded in what is our dream. Of the truth, the people who you are looking at as a success actually took it one-step-at-a-time.
Laziness is just another manifestation of fear. So if you can’t take the next step, break it into smaller parts you can handle.
If you are to wash heap of cloths, rather than dipping them all together in your washing bowl, separate the tough fabrics from the lighter fabric and wash.
Let’s say a step can’t be broken down, you either need to face it entirely or not at all. In these situations, you need to set a target for yourself. Give a friend something that will cost you an arm and a leg to a trusted friend to hold onto until you achieve your target. Make this a public commitment.
The aforementioned should stop you from giving excuses and achieve more yourself. Click on the subscribe button to get articles delivered straight to your inbox.