If anyone tells you it’s easy to recover from failure, he or she might not be telling you the entire truth. Failure hurts, though the degree varies from persons to persons. It’s not easy to recover from failure, but it can be done!
In this article we are going to share 5 ways to recover from a failure, these tips will help make the recovery process a lot easier. If care is not taken a failure can lead to depression, suicide, a heart attack or a loss of self-confidence.
5 Ways to Recovering From Failures
At Faithgane Foundation, we leverage the wealth of knowledge shared by men and women who have inspired and groomed leaders from all works of life to help others overcome their biggest fears.
Here are some ways to recover from failure:
- Enjoy the experience of failing
Failure is a bitter pill to swallow, especially when you have so much expectation on its success. It hurts more when you have used all available resources to get the result you want and yet you failed at it.
Feel the moment, scream if you feel like screaming, this could make you feel at ease. Do what makes you feel better, take yourself on a real treat if possible; this experience makes you develop grit for overcoming failure, don’t shy away from admitting your failure. The truth is we all experience failure from time to time. If you are contemplating suicide, quickly call a counsellor, explain to him or her.
- Talk about it.
Failure has got no friend, no one wants to experience the isolation that comes with failure, so when we fail, what first comes to us is to isolate ourselves from the world that was ones our motivation. We feel ashamed because we had bragged, or raised the hope of many to succeed. Some of us even feel failure is a clear sign of a bad character and unworthiness.
As hard as it might seem, talking to a friend, preferably somebody who does the same thing you do – your mentor. They most likely are going to tell you how they also recovered from a failure. You would be amazed at how quickly you recover from the failure, most times you leave smiling, encouraged and inspired to give it another try.
- Move on.
Failure forces you to reflect, reconsider, and question your actions. It causes you to ask questions like “Where did I get it wrong?”, “Was I too unrealistic?”, “Did I not commit enough resources?”. It is natural to ask yourself some of these questions knowing how much time and effort you had committed.
Take lessons from the experience and move on. Ryan Holiday once said, “the only way to not benefit from failure is not to learn from it”.
Be humble enough to admit to your mistakes, if you still can’t understand where you have missed it, you need to get a second thought, who in this case should be your mentor. This is one of the benefits of having a mentor; they pull you up when you feel like giving up.
4. Divert from Self – Help Others
Taking some time out to do something different from your daily routine can be a good way to get off the trauma of failing. It is a good way to divert your attention to something else. Going on to do some volunteering is rewarding as well. That way you are providing succour to some people, and helping others achieve what they had thought isn’t achievable.
This achievement would likely bring about a reawakening of your motivation or an innovation that could solve a local problem. The bottom line is get involved, get yourself busy helping others. You will not be doing justice to your health when you spend time regretting your actions or comparing yourself to others. We know what can happen when we think too much or live in isolation; one would be exposed to avoidable health conditions like strokes and depression.
- Try again
You can’t do something the same way and expect the same result – having taken time to reflect on the possible reasons for failure and done the other mentioned tips (1-4), try achieving your goal using a different approach.
You don’t need to look so far to learn a different approach! Your relation with the first 4 tips listed should give you the success that you desire. Perhaps, having a journal or diary to record all your findings and lessons would help. You don’t win if you quit a battle; keep trying until you make it.
We have had time to share about 3 series in quick succession about failure and successes; we hope this would help you and others who are having a hard time fulfilling their potentials. Some factors affect the success of a project or program. Understand that you are not a highland of knowledge – seek help and be humble enough to admit to your mistake.
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